Dear Victoria, Today, you turn 23 years old. You have reached a major pinnacle in your life, but it has only just begun. I eagerly wait with anticipation to see what your life has in store for you. Of all the things I am capable of giving you today, I feel my words are the most valuable and I wish someone had shared these thoughts with me when I was your age. These are exciting times for you: finishing college, starting a career, dating, marriage, having kids. The possibilities are endless. But, I’m not going to lie. At times, life is going to get rough.

I apologize for taking so long to reach out to you.  I have watched you from a distance as you spiraled out of control.  I wanted to say something to ease your pain.  I just didn’t know how or what to say. I have seen all the anger, guilt and sadness you have buried deep inside you.  I have watched as you tried to make it go away with more and more alcohol.  I tried to tell you many times that it was a temporary fix.  That as soon as the effects wore off, the old feelings would still be there.  I was right, and

This letter has been a long time coming.  I think it is time to sever our relationship.  We had a lot of fun at first.  Whether it was sitting on top of the hangar drinking some homemade wine with my best friend or just having a few drinks with friends.  You always made me feel great and helped me come out of my shell. There were some downtimes early on as well.  That should have warned me about what was to come.  Remember when we got arrested?  Or when we almost got kicked off the football team?  Granted, I was probably in the best shape

My Dearest J, This is a difficult letter to write.  I have to try to help you understand my behaviour over the years.  I originally was going to focus on the 6 years that we have been married.  The more I thought about it, I decided that I should start at the beginning of my drinking.  Not just when you were exposed to it.  I remember my first drink like it was yesterday.  I was 2 or maybe 3 years old.  Dad had fixed a drink and left it on the counter.  I guess I thought it was a coke or something.  I took the